People ask me, what is this strange power you have over your wife?  How do you make her do things like change the brake pads on your Toyota?

And all I can answer is: nobody has power over my wife.  She does whatever she wants, and always has.

 Go ahead; try and bend her to your will.  I dare you.

It just so happened that the brakes needed changing at a time when my back was newly injured.  Vangie said she wanted to do the job herself (even though she had never done any other car repairs).

So I stood there and talked her through it, while snapping pictures.  She did well.
And the car stops well.